Real men
Right judgement
Decide with the heart

Sun

A real man bears the consequences.

A man's actions must have consequences. A man should not be lounging around at home all day, playing video games and wagging one off his palm seven times a day. We live. At least some of us are. Living means going out into the world. But living also means bearing consequences for your decisions.

A real man always stands up for the decisions he has made. If a man commits himself to something, then he bears the consequences if he does not follow through on that commitment.

You make a commitment to exercise three times this week, but you don't do it. What does that mean for yourself if you don't bear the consequences?

For one thing: You can't believe yourself. Furthermore: It doesn't matter whether you follow through on your commitments or not, because your actions don't seem to have any consequences.

The sooner a man learns to bear consequences for his actions, the sooner he becomes aware of his obligations. If you know that the consequence for skipping your sport is two days of fasting, then you will not do anything and give up sport.

Generally, it is a healthy attitude for a real man to always be aware that the things we do in our lives can have consequences and that we will always answer for them.

Who would you trust more? A man who stands by his commitments and bears the consequences, or a man who shirks the consequences?

A real man stands up for his commitments.

Quote from men's literature

Right Judgment

Only after well-founded, thorough consideration, even in the most insignificant matters, should you decide.

All thoughtless action, all meaningless deeds should be kept from the soul. For everything you do, have well considered grounds. And definitely abstain from doing anything without significant reason.

Once convinced of the correctness of a decision, you should hold on to it with inner steadfastness.

This is the so-called "right judgment", which is not influenced by sympathy or antipathy.

Eightfold Path

Making decisions consciously

This module is about being flexible enough to consider what is said not only for, but also against a problem so that both sides of the problem can be seen. We are therefore looking for suitable situations in which we can make a conscious decision. This should be tried especially with small decisions.

Exercise

• Discover how often you make decisions in your everyday life. Every simple action is based on a decision. Consciously or unconsciously.
• Make conscious decisions and be aware of alternatives. Ask yourself:
  • Have I really weighed the pros and cons or just decided spontaneously based on my gut feeling?
  • Did I not only consider my obvious motives, but also discovered my hidden motives?
  • Have I followed objective criteria?
  • Or have I been guided by personal sympathy or antipathy?
• After you've implemented the decision, ask yourself
  • Did I execute the decision as decided?
  • If I changed my decision, was it out of strength or weakness?
• When reviewing the day, ask yourself what decisions have been made and whether they have been implemented.

Tips

• Do the exercise only with those decisions that can be easily implemented!
• Practice making a choice over a minor issue, such as whether to go to bed at 10pm or 11pm. Think of as many pros and cons as possible for both times. Then say yes to one of the options and go through with your decision, inwardly saying “yes” to your decision. 
• If you feel the pros for an issue strongly, try to live into the cons of the argument with empathy and understanding. Go back and forth playfully between the pros and cons and really feel both sides, pausing, before making a conscious decision for one side or the other. 
• If it's a Yes to Yes, say Yes! If it's a Yes to No, say No! Follow your heart.
• Take seriously what your feeling says. This is not about good or bad. Notice how relieving that is.

Outcome

• You learn that every decision has reasons for and against it. It's always like this.
• You ask clear questions, create an open space and learn to give voice to contradictory aspects.
• Experience that your feelings recognize the yes in a jungle of arguments
• You learn to trust in the perceived correctness of a decision.
• You learn that only the heart can decide while the head may get lost in weighing up advantages and disadvantages.
• In this manner you may learn to hear the voice of your heart and to decide from the heart.
• Decisions of the heart can be maintained with inner strength, even if the circumstances become difficult.
• Thus, the exercise strengthens the will and the influence of your I on your astral body.
• You become less dependent on " advisers" who subconsciously replace your will with theirs.

Notice

• Do not choose a “No” just because you feel limp and weary. Then you have only decided out of the need to do nothing.
• Instead, wait until the right time when you are inwardly strong before practicing making a choice.
• Realize that not making your conscious choices weakens your will as much as doing it strengthens it. Provided, of course, that the decision is still right for you.
• Be aware that not following through on consciously made decisions consistently weakens your will weakens your will as much as putting it into practice strengthens it. Provided, of course, that the decision is still right for you.
• If this happens often, try to intensify your practice on small decisions!
• If this pattern still doesn’t change, you have found something to investigate.