Real Men
Right Speech
Refraining from Wishes

Moon

A real man doesn't care what other people think about him.

A real man does not project his desires outwards and does not expect them to be fulfilled by others. He finds pleasure and fulfilment in what he does, and does not depend on the approval of others.

A real man meets women with interest and self-confidence. He is not dependent on the fulfilment of external expectations by the partner for the experience of sexual pleasure and joy.

Let's face it: some people will love you, others will think you are crazy. When a real man reveals his true self, then he can be considered crazy by some. An Arnold Schwarzenegger was called crazy by almost everyone in his early days. That was fine for him and look at him now, people admire him.

You have to be ready as a real man to be a crazy outsider at any time. Because: in this orientationless post-feminist society, you as a man with orientation are the exception. The one who is an exception is automatically called crazy from time to time. Crazy means nothing other than moved away from the image of society.

Read biographies of real men and you will be amazed at the quirks they had. They were partly obsessed with things. Genius and madness are not so close together for nothing.

A real man doesn't care what other people think.

Quote from men's literature

Right Speech

Only what has sense and meaning should come from the lips of one striving for higher development. All talking for the sake of talking - or to kill time – is in this sense harmful.

The usual kind of conversation, where everything is a disjointed medley of remarks, should be avoided.

This does not mean shutting oneself off from intercourse with one’s fellows. Precisely in conversation, speech should gradually be led to significance. You speak to and answer everyone thoughtfully, taking all aspects into account.

Never speak without a reason! Love being silent. Try to use neither too few nor too many words. Listen calmly and then reflect on what has been said.

One also calls this exercise "the right word".

Eightfold Path

Foregoing unimportant wishes, leaving desires unfulfilled

In this module we experience so-called desire-abandonment by experimenting with small concrete examples. We inhibit small desires for a limited amount of time, as long as the non-execution of these desires brings no harm:

“The cultivation of the will, as we may call it, is most important. I have already mentioned how nervousness often makes it impossible for people to know what they want to do. They do not know their desires, or even what they would want. This may be regarded as a weakness of the will that is due to an insufficient control of the I over the astral body. That causes    some people not to know what they want and, if they do, they never manage to carry it out. Others still, cannot bring themselves to truly or earnestly do what they want to do. 

There is a simple means to strengthen one’s will for everyday life, and that is to inhibit existing desires and not allowing them to be fulfilled. This you can only do of course when inhibiting them will not do any harm.” R. Steiner

Exercise

• We observe our desires and try to notice how many wishes we have every day, before we automatically fulfil some of them.
• If you notice a small desire that you would normally perform, but which you can easily omit, then substitute it for another activity, or perform it at some other time. This way you can learn to consciously refrain from it.
• After foregoing a desire, observe what effect this has on your body, on your mood etc.

Tips

• In this way, in the course of one day, we repeatedly forego small desires, e.g. drinking coffee; watching the news; listening to the radio while cooking, reading the news at breakfast etc.
• Be playful with holding back on desires.
  • For example, get a pack of your favorite chips or cookies, just for you, and do an experiment. No sharing, just for you.
  • Put them out in a bowl and sit in front of them and observe your reactions. What is happening there?
  • Pick one up, do some observation of the cookie or chip, smell it and put it back down.
  • Go do something else.
  • Come back to the chips or cookies - have they been calling you? Now that you have noticed, what effect a cookie can have on you, you can consciously decide to eat it or not.
  • What do you experience in your body and soul as you do it?
• Have fun and do enjoy!
• Sometimes desires are also substitute gratifications for unmanaged topics.
  • For example, to drink a coffee if you get stuck on something.
  • Smoking a cigarette if you do not feel understood by your boss.
  • Can you instead, try to perceive the emotion, e.g. worry, misunderstanding, that is hidden behind the desire?
  • Is the desire covering up for a break you need? Or for new ideas, for recognition or support?

Outcome

• By foregoing the fulfillment of small, insignificant wishes over a period of time, you strengthen your will forces and the control of the ego over your desires.
• You recognize your dependencies and it is easier for you to do without them. You discover your real wishes and needs and let the insignificant wishes go.
• Your etheric body is less under pressure from the astral body and psychosomatic illnesses can decrease.
• In making it a new habit, you expand your self-awareness for key life issues.
• A good and healthy body awareness is created.